Love comes in all forms, all shapes and sizes, different colors, and through different circumstances. Love can be plain and simple or complicated and misunderstood. You can love your family, significant others, your friends, and your pets. You can still love those who passed on or those who are growing in the womb, but what about the love of someone who isn’t here yet?
Ask a woman struggling with infertility who she loves and she will name the obvious, but under her breath, she will whisper her child– the baby she has yet to conceive; the heartbeat that only lives in her dreams. She won’t tell you but she loves the little one she dreams of more than anything. When she’s praying extra hard for life to be in her womb, she closes her eyes and imagines herself speaking to that baby, as if she’s speaking life into existence. But when that life proves not to be there, she mourns the child that was never there that she continues to believe, month after month, will be. While she’s upset, her husband hurts too. He feels as if he causes her tears and that he can’t make her happy. He struggles to give her the one gift she asks for every holiday.
The truth is, no matter how big the celebration, most holidays are hard. Today there are going to be pregnancy announcements, babies covered in red lipstick kisses, couples with their hands wrapped around their growing baby, and toddlers in their adorable Valentine’s Day attire. There are also going to be couples bragging of gifts, roses, and dinner but the couple struggling to conceive might be fighting to keep their marriage functioning and won’t feel like celebrating. So today, amongst the chocolate and the hearts, remember the couples dealing with infertility. Call them up, pray with them and for them, and show them love and compassion.
You never know what kind of blessing you can be to someone by showing them love.
Xo,
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